What if you are not the person struggling? What if you are the support system? What are you supposed to do when you feel like what you are doing is not enough or you just plainly do not know what to do?
If someone you know is stuck and struggling with themselves, you need to take it seriously. This is such a serious and prevalent issue that our society is facing. If someone reaches out to you, you need to recognize that they are making a cry for help because it is not easy to talk to people about what is going on inside your head. The main thing you can do is support them and encourage them that they will get through this.
Personally, the worst thing to hear when you are in the dark and you cannot even see the light at the end of the tunnel is it is going to be okay. It will get better. No, that is the last thing they want to hear because they have convinced themselves that this is the worst thing that has ever happened to them. They think there is no possible way that things can get any better. What they need to hear is, you can get through this. You need to get through this. As an outside supporter, you may want to fix everything, but you will never be able to light someone's candle, but, like I said, you can hand them a match.
There has to be times when you just listen to them. You may want to give advice or lecture them and tell them that what they are feeling is not right, but if they do not ask you for advice, they may just need someone to listen to them. Validate their feelings. They don’t want to be told what to do, they just want to hear someone say, hey what you are going through is hard, but you are strong enough to get through it. You can ask them what you can do to help. You may not be satisfied with their answer, but you can always tell them that you are there for them and ready to talk at any time. If you do not feel comfortable reaching out to someone you may think is struggling, you need to tell someone you know they trust. If you are not sure who to tell, then tell someone of authority so they can address the situation before anything too serious takes place.
Mental health is no joke. If someone told you they did not feel well, you would take them to a doctor or find them the help they needed. The same should go for mental health. Speak up and help #Be the Solution!
- Meredith Russ
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